Talking Trees
Healing is a process that requires knowledge, lots of it. Knowledge alone won't automatically move you forward, but the lack of knowledge can definitely keep you stuck. The knowledge that is required to thrive is not just about childhood sexual abuse. We need to understand how the mind works, how the body works, and how society works. All of these systems converge onto each of our personal healing journey. There is no single book, website, support page or support person that can give you all of the information that you need to thrive. You must become intimately involved with your own seeking and learning and processing and growing. Invest intentional time in healing (away from the computer) to engage in the learning process. Topics related to healing include: cognitive dissonance, social development, fitness and health, male dominance, religion (the study of religion, not the practice), mindfulness, feminism. So even though support and information for survivors are very limited, support and information related to healing is not limited at all. The most important element is YOU. (see https://www.facebook.com/pages/Talking-Trees-Adult-Survivors-of-Childhood-Sexual-Abuse/157082910999500?fref=nf)
My response
It is interesting how some people can use up so much time
energy and space to say absolutely nothing. Writers used to crumple up these
pages and toss them in the waste basket when they came to the realization that
... well there is no point made here. I save mine in a folder, we have computers
now, sort of an electronic waste basket so I can retrieve it, because you know
there's always that one sentence that begins to haunt you and you go through
the waste basket looking for the one crumpled paper with the one sentence upon
which an entire worthwhile idea can be based. Writers are like this.
I particularly find offensive and untenable the theme that addressing
male dominance has value in healing from Childhood Sexual Abuse. This is an
obvious path to avoidance of the reality that survivors make or female are
abused sexual by males and/or females and that the real issues that are being
avoided by fixating on "male dominance" and it's attended generalized
anger which is as very good hypothesis to explore as a reason for female
homosexuality, but the theme of male dominance avoids the real issues that need
to be reflected on and healed these are the operant conditioning to trade
compliance for needs and concomitantly the classical conditioning of needing to
sexually objectify oneself in order to get love affection and attention, the
self-hatred associated with this.
It the generalized anger toward males particularly in the
area of sex because of a female being sexually abused by an important male in
her life one seen as dominate in the social group known as the family can
certainly be used as a rebellious activity to avoid the real issues. The same
points can also be used as environmental conditioning for lesbianism. This
hy[hypothesis should be explored further.
In summary I think we can see relationships between male
dominance being suggested as a healing avenue when there is no such evidence,
how such thinking about make dominance can be triggered by a certain form of
childhood sexual abuse ie father daughter abuse, how generalizing one's
understandable anger toward such horrible and hideous suffering can be used as
an avoidance technique for the real issues of operant and classical
conditioning that leads to self-hatred and that finally there may be a linkage
between father daughter childhood sexual abuse and lesbianism.
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